Is it okay that my mom reads my diary

Is it okay that my mom reads my diary?

In my opinion, if you don’t want her to read it, it’s absolutely not okay.
Usually one of the main reason people keep diaries is to put their thoights in order, vent, and so on.
A lot of people basically open themselves up completely and use it to write what they don’t feel comfortable talking about to anyone but still have to get out.
I’ve only ever written a few pages, but when I did it, it felt pretty good.
However, due to being kinda paranoid about other people reading it, I either wrote entirely in a self-made alphabet or in a way that would make it very hard to decipher, with some key words being written in a different alphabet.
For example, the earliest written and dated record of me being bisexual was written in the latter way, with the word ‘bi’ being written in Tengwar, Tolkien’s elvish script.
That might be a possible solution if you don’t want your mother to read it, along with locking the diary away and always keeping the keys on you.
In case your mother asks you how she’s supposed to know what’s up in your life if she can’t read your diary, suggest that she should just ask you what happened through the day.
If you go with the coded diary, just remmeber not to leave the code table lying around, instead hide it very well, and possibly burn it when you feel that you don’t need it anymore and can write and understnd the diary without it.
Writing your diary in code also gives you the opportunity to make something up should she demand that you tell her what you wrote.

I don’t think it is a super idea.
You put your whole effort on writing what soul is ordering inside.
It can be a depressesion letter, motivation, inner secrets, how you met your first love, private habits you want to get rid of that no one knows yet, or a suicide plan (in a kidding tone).
Now imagine your Mom reads and knows what she shouldn’t about you.
A suicide??? What? OMG, she needs a serious therapist! And things will go on worse.
She will immeduately change attitude towards you, fishy lookings, suddenly giving free advices, careful actions, asking weird questions, implying strange sentences for you to comprehend.
As a personal experience, my sister once read almost half of my diary while I was out (even though had hid it deep down of wardrobe).
Soon she started to blackmail against her benefits, entirely sniff as if she tries me provoke, makes me mad and so on.
My advice is: Write on a note-book that has a handle, keep the keys always with you.
Or write on e-version on note of tab or phone then block it.
That is the safest thing I have been doing.

No, that’s definitely not okay! You have a diary to express the feelings, sensations, thoughts you don’t express publicy daily so why would you even let someone read it? I like people that respects my boundaries, my privacy.
If you don’t like that, you should leave through the front door.

Respect is all about setting boundaries.
If there’s no boundaries, there’s no respect!
(P.
S.
:I actually hide my diary in the drawer that people have the less probability to find it!)

It isn’t okay — your diary is private — it’s part of your private life.
It might not be possible to keep your mother out of reading your diary — for any number of reasons.
Consider doing a decoy diary calculated to be read by your mother (or any other person) just as a diversionary measure.
Use your initiative to hide your real diary somehow.
If for nothing else, your writing for that decoy diary will help train yourself up in writing proficiency.

Is it okay that my mom reads my diary?

In my opinion, if you don’t want her to read it, it’s absolutely not okay.
Usually one of the main reason people keep diaries is to put their thoights in order, vent, and so on.
A lot of people basically open themselves up completely and use it to write what they don’t feel comfortable talking about to anyone but still have to get out.
I’ve only ever written a few pages, but when I did it, it felt pretty good.
However, due to being kinda paranoid about other people reading it, I either wrote entirely in a self-made alphabet or in a way that would make it very hard to decipher, with some key words being written in a different alphabet.
For example, the earliest written and dated record of me being bisexual was written in the latter way, with the word ‘bi’ being written in Tengwar, Tolkien’s elvish script.
That might be a possible solution if you don’t want your mother to read it, along with locking the diary away and always keeping the keys on you.
In case your mother asks you how she’s supposed to know what’s up in your life if she can’t read your diary, suggest that she should just ask you what happened through the day.
If you go with the coded diary, just remmeber not to leave the code table lying around, instead hide it very well, and possibly burn it when you feel that you don’t need it anymore and can write and understnd the diary without it.
Writing your diary in code also gives you the opportunity to make something up should she demand that you tell her what you wrote.

I don’t think it is a super idea.
You put your whole effort on writing what soul is ordering inside.
It can be a depressesion letter, motivation, inner secrets, how you met your first love, private habits you want to get rid of that no one knows yet, or a suicide plan (in a kidding tone).
Now imagine your Mom reads and knows what she shouldn’t about you.
A suicide??? What? OMG, she needs a serious therapist! And things will go on worse.
She will immeduately change attitude towards you, fishy lookings, suddenly giving free advices, careful actions, asking weird questions, implying strange sentences for you to comprehend.
As a personal experience, my sister once read almost half of my diary while I was out (even though had hid it deep down of wardrobe).
Soon she started to blackmail against her benefits, entirely sniff as if she tries me provoke, makes me mad and so on.
My advice is: Write on a note-book that has a handle, keep the keys always with you.
Or write on e-version on note of tab or phone then block it.
That is the safest thing I have been doing.

No, that’s definitely not okay! You have a diary to express the feelings, sensations, thoughts you don’t express publicy daily so why would you even let someone read it? I like people that respects my boundaries, my privacy.
If you don’t like that, you should leave through the front door.

Respect is all about setting boundaries.
If there’s no boundaries, there’s no respect!
(P.
S.
:I actually hide my diary in the drawer that people have the less probability to find it!)

It isn’t okay — your diary is private — it’s part of your private life.
It might not be possible to keep your mother out of reading your diary — for any number of reasons.
Consider doing a decoy diary calculated to be read by your mother (or any other person) just as a diversionary measure.
Use your initiative to hide your real diary somehow.
If for nothing else, your writing for that decoy diary will help train yourself up in writing proficiency.

Updated: 10.07.2019 — 8:28 pm

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